I have said it before but this is a day that brings about so many mixed emotions for people. There are those who had amazing biological fathers and there are those who had incredible adopted fathers. Some grew up without a father or maybe even watched their father walk out on them. As sad as it is many grew up with unkind fathers and even abusive fathers. As we get older many of us will lose our fathers or some like I have already lost them.
I feel blessed to have had an absolutely amazing earthly father. My daddy loved my brothers, sister and I with his whole heart. We were his whole world and he was so proud of each of us. I never once for even a second doubted his love for me. When I look back I realize that he showed me what unconditional love was and for that I am eternally thankful. My dad was probably the hardest worker I have ever met. He would work 50+ hours a week and on his days off he would have worked out at the gym, been to the grocery store and already started a load of laundry before 8:00am! He then would go on to cook breakfast, lunch and dinner before noon!!! (I am dead serious) My mom would always say "Greg why are you cooking spaghetti for dinner at 12:00pm no one wants to have to reheat cold spaghetti at 5:00pm tonight!" haha. My friends would always laugh because whenever they came over my dad would always try to feed them! Even if you said you were not hungry 5 times he would still come in my bedroom with a breakfast burrito, steak or big bowl of spaghetti and try to make you eat it! My dad's love language was giving gifts and I will always remember waking up as a little girl and opening up my ribbon & bow drawer (yes I had a bow drawer which is probably why my girls always have to wear bows!) and I would always find a candy bar and little note in there from my dad (and that is probably why I have such a big sweet tooth) It was little things like that, my dad did all throughout my life that I will never forget.
I am thankful for the 22 years of great memories I had with my dad and I am beyond grateful that my dad was there to walk my down the aisle on my wedding day. I feel so blessed that my father was there to give me away to the man that is now the father of my girls. But even though I had those 22 years with my dad it does not make it any easier having him gone now. I know what it is like to have a loving father but I also know what it is like to lose a father. The pain of losing my dad was imaginable and 7 years later I still have terribly sad days. I know my dad is in a better place but that does not take away the longing to hug him, talk with him, ask him for advice or just smell his scent one more time. I so badly wish he could have met my girls because I know they would have just adored him. On days like today I just have to remind myself how lucky I was to have had a great earthly dad and be thankful for the time I did have with him.
Although I can get sad missing my father on a day like today, joy immediately fills my heart when I think about my husband John, the wonderful father of my girls. I really do not think there could be a more incredible husband or father. I just love watching Josselyn light up when John gets home from work, she absolutely adores her daddy and I can not wait to watch Julianna fall in love with her daddy as well. My girls are so blessed to have such a loving, caring and hard working father. I am so thankful to have a husband who loves me, loves his children and loves God with every once of his being. John is more than the man of my dreams because in all honesty I never dreamed of marrying a man as amazing as him. I love you John and am honored to be your wife.
Now I do not know your story or what emotions come to your mind when you think of the word father. But regardless of what type of earthly father you have/had (good or bad) I want to remind you that we have a heavenly father who is PERFECT. He will never leave you nor forsake you (Deuteronomy 31:6). He loves you unconditionally regardless of your past mistakes, short coming or flaws (Jeremiah 31:3). And He thinks you are perfect and delights in you (Zephaniah 3:17). So even though "Father's Day" is about giving honor to our earthly fathers lets not forget to honor the ultimate father who created us all. He is the very definition of love (1 John 4:8) and He is the only PERFECT FATHER.
So on a day like today I will remember my father, be thankful for my daughters' father and praise the ultimate Heavenly Father.
|Fathers Day 2013|